"Fearlessness may be a gift, but perhaps more precious is the courage acquired through endeavor, courage that comes from cultivating the habit of refusing to let fear dictate one's actions, courage that could be described as "grace under pressure" - grace renewed repeatedly in the face of harsh, unremitting pressure."
By Aung San Suu Kyi, Nobel Peace Prize, Burma
What an incredible month it has been. A loved one asked me basically, "what in the world are you doing?" You are focusing too much on your "job" and not doing what you said you wanted to do, your business -your work - your passion. In denial, I emphatically defended that I was doing everything that I wanted to be doing. Usually my two options are being in hell, sitting at a desk in front of a computer or speaking to a client which for me is heaven right here on earth. The moment when they see themselves for who they are and GET that it is their own habits that are standing in the way of their every desire...heaven right here on earth. But now I am not in hell, my job isn't sitting at a desk. I'm loving my job -I'm watching lives change, it's exciting. I defended my case for 45 minutes and said I want to do both.
I mentioned this conversation to my accountability partner. "Guess what my loved one said to me...?" She was quiet and challenged me with the same observation. I defended it again but with a little less gusto. Some days had passed and the conversation wasn't leaving my consciouness. She didn't let up and the final blow..."five years from now when you envison your future, what do you see? What do you want to be doing?" Tears came to my eyes, because I saw SM Management. I was immediately filled with a sense of fear. I rattled off the reasons why I couldn't only do the business - my work - my passion. I rattled off my fears. It was purely terrifying to think that I could literally spend my days in this conversation. It is my greatest desire and dream. I believe that people are living in misery and suffering silently and in some cases (very loudly) only because they believe that they are supposed to. It is what I used to believe. The habit still presents itself and causes me (us) to believe that we are getting what we deserve. We are quietly ashamed and/or afraid of facing who we are at our core. If we could just understand that the power of the fear is in what we are afraid of, not in the thing itself. Once we face it, it is released. Grace.
The tears kept flowing. The fear remained but also a tremendous joy surfaced imagining the world engaged in a conversation about their passions, their true core selves, which then requires that they take action that will allow them to live inspired, fulfilled and free. And then I was trying to figure out what to do and my accountability partner said "nothing." Being with what is true for you is where you need to start and the rest flows from there. I see it over and over again, clients wanting to get into action, and skipping where they are, which leads to more of the same habits and suffering. But by being where we are, grace...joy...comes in and the rest flows from there. Amazed that as many things as I've faced, as many times as I've endeavored, here I was having to endeavor again. Grace. Two days later, my first draft of my collection of blogs is completed, former clients have agreed to share their incredible experience on my upcoming teleseminars, a new client has been signed, a 3-week intensive teleseminar that I'll be attending perfectly in alignment with aiding me in my next steps, two books resurfaced that remind me of who I am and...by being called to be with my core self, the rest flowed instantly from there.
I understand why it is easier to stick with our habits. That is something that we can do over and over and over again. But when we commit to a journey that is about our growth and living from our core, there is nothing static about it. We have to keep being reminded who we are and we have to keep being willing to go towards what we don't know, we have to keep jumping off the cliff and we have to surround ourselves with those committed to us living from our core. We have to sit and cry and feel the terror of the unknown. We have to keep journeying. We have to keep being authentic, even when we think we "don't wanna." We have to be willing to admit when we're wrong, be willing to apologize, be willing to say "I don't know." Be willing to say "I'm scared." Be willing to take responsibility. Endeavor to have the courage and be open to love and grace. Be willing to take responsibility to be who we were meant to be when placed here on this earth.
We are all under pressure, the world is calling us to be who we truly are. Don't give into the fears preached by your friends, family, on the news and mostly by the voices in your head. Habits are deadly, the world needs us to be bigger than our minds, the world is pressuring us to live from our SOUL. Endeavor to sit down, shed a tear and enjoy your life inspired , fulfilled and free!
Plan of Action: Please imagine what it would be like to bring in the New Year no longer resisting WHO YOU ARE. Pick one thing that you have been avoiding (bill, conversation, person, place or thing). Sit down and look at it for what it is. Don't try to figure out what to do (habit). Be where you are with it. Why are you afraid? What do you want? Has it been there for five years...five years from now do you still want it there? Be where you are with it. The rest will flow from there.
Join the SM Management Community's Free Teleseminar on November 30th from 9pm to 10pm to hear Tim Mendes, actor and business man share his experience of before and after working with SM Management. He is now "...loving reality!" Conference Call Line: 218-486-1616 Passcode: 931969#
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