HAPPY NEW YEAR

January 8, 2010

Thank you to all of you that have joined Core Conversations In Action. There haven't been many conversations amongst us, but I hope that at some point throughout the year, there was a word, phrase or quote here that provided you with what you may have needed.

New Year's Day I was stuck with a broken down vehicle in Erie, PA with two feet of snow. I was heading to Columbus, Ohio to retrieve the last of my grandmother's things. We never made it. Three days later, money and time lost, and we only made it ten minutes outside of the New York state line. Life is funny, that is for sure. We just never know. I know I am late writing and I apologize for the delay.

This blog was created to share and have conversations about approaching life from a place of inspiration and hope even when it seems that fear, lack and pain are all there is. Life is a cycle.

I wish everyone, peace, love and may you find within yourself and from your loved ones all that will inspire you to the next minute, the next hour, the next day, month, season and year!

Remember "time doesn't heal, truth heals." (The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship by Mark Goulston, M.D.) May you find the courage to be and act from your core; upon what is TRUE.

Happy New Year!

BEING

This was sent to my blog list on Monday, December 7th. Due to technical difficulties with Blogger it is just being published here on December 10th. To ensure you receive it on the first of the month be sure to subscribe to my email list by sending me an email with "subscribe to blog" in subject line at ccnaction@gmail.com. I hope you enjoy it and if so please pass it along!

“The process of getting there is the quality of being there.”

Creating Money, Keys to Abundance by Sanaya Roman & Duane Packer



The resistance to facing the root of our issues is where we spend most of our time. And in turn our habitual patterns reign. The thought of facing our fears terrifies us because we believe it is going to come out worse than where it already is. But the opposite is true. When we choose to not be authentic, to hide from ourselves, we are simply allowing the hurricane of our lives to continue to swirl. We pretend that we are happy in our relationships, we pretend we are not in debt and continue shopping, we choose to say nothing to our molesters and have to sit with them at the dinner table every holiday. We hold onto our jobs that bring us misery and pain and we tell ourselves "everything is fine", or "just a few more years". Because we are in denial, afraid to face our truth, it surfaces in other ways; we gain tons of weight, are in the hospital with one illness or another, are agitated and stressed and constantly reaching for a drink, or numbing ourselves looking at the tv/computer screen all day.



When we are able to face our fears, our truths, only then can we discover that there are infinite possibilities. When we look from our habit, from our fear, the option is usually “I have no option, I have no choice.” When we look from the root, suddenly we enter the world of the unknown and instantly an infinite number of possibilities exist. Possibilities that provide healing and release. Possibilities that allow us to get healthy, turn off the tv and put down the drink. Are you planning on charging up your credit cards for the holiday? Are you planning on spending the year running from your fears? Just ask yourself how long you have spent running and pretending? Has it worked so far? If not, consider "facing it" and see what happens. You'd be amazed. I've watched clients who've avoided their taxes for 3 years, once facing it, getting them all done in less than 3 months only to discover that they have a huge refund coming even with the late fees. I've watched someone give up their toxic relationship only to discover and engage in activities they enjoyed which in turn brought them abundance financially and the peace of mind to have abundance spiritually. I've watched clients choose to face their molesters which allowed them to shed their shames, pain and blame. I've also watched clients choose to not go all the way to face their root fears and truths. And although they have a glimpse of some release, they don't experience the eye popping transformations that create abundance in all areas of their lives. This formula works 100% of the time. When the root isn't faced, the habitual patterns resurface again and again and again. When the root fears are faced, extraordinary transformations take place again and again and again. 100% of the time. Which cycle would you like to be on this year?!


Start the year 2010; start right now, getting to where you want to be by allowing yourself to experience "being there." You can be there when you know you've chosen to send a card instead of charging a $500.00 gift you know you can't afford. You can "be there" when you are moment to moment to moment comfortable in your own skin. Secrets, hiding and robbing Peter to pay Paul is exhausting. Please take this year to STOP and allow yourself to shed the shames, pains and blames so you may get to the real YOU. Face your root fears because YOU, is a very beautiful thing. HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Plan of Action:

Sit quietly with yourself at least 15 minutes every day. Practice BEING. Spend your day noticing in your actions and interactions how often you are pulled away from yourself. Pay attention to YOU. Practice actions and interactions that allow you to BE. (Remember they may not be the actions you think or the actions you've spent years engaging in. That is okay).

If you need support, please call me for your free consultation at 718-350-6095

Dedicated to building communities living inspired, fulfilled and free!

ENDEAVOR TO ANSWER THE CALL

November 2, 2009


"Fearlessness may be a gift, but perhaps more precious is the courage acquired through endeavor, courage that comes from cultivating the habit of refusing to let fear dictate one's actions, courage that could be described as "grace under pressure" - grace renewed repeatedly in the face of harsh, unremitting pressure."

By Aung San Suu Kyi, Nobel Peace Prize, Burma

What an incredible month it has been. A loved one asked me basically, "what in the world are you doing?" You are focusing too much on your "job" and not doing what you said you wanted to do, your business -your work - your passion. In denial, I emphatically defended that I was doing everything that I wanted to be doing. Usually my two options are being in hell, sitting at a desk in front of a computer or speaking to a client which for me is heaven right here on earth. The moment when they see themselves for who they are and GET that it is their own habits that are standing in the way of their every desire...heaven right here on earth. But now I am not in hell, my job isn't sitting at a desk. I'm loving my job -I'm watching lives change, it's exciting. I defended my case for 45 minutes and said I want to do both.

I mentioned this conversation to my accountability partner. "Guess what my loved one said to me...?" She was quiet and challenged me with the same observation. I defended it again but with a little less gusto. Some days had passed and the conversation wasn't leaving my consciouness. She didn't let up and the final blow..."five years from now when you envison your future, what do you see? What do you want to be doing?" Tears came to my eyes, because I saw SM Management. I was immediately filled with a sense of fear. I rattled off the reasons why I couldn't only do the business - my work - my passion. I rattled off my fears. It was purely terrifying to think that I could literally spend my days in this conversation. It is my greatest desire and dream. I believe that people are living in misery and suffering silently and in some cases (very loudly) only because they believe that they are supposed to. It is what I used to believe. The habit still presents itself and causes me (us) to believe that we are getting what we deserve. We are quietly ashamed and/or afraid of facing who we are at our core. If we could just understand that the power of the fear is in what we are afraid of, not in the thing itself. Once we face it, it is released. Grace.

The tears kept flowing. The fear remained but also a tremendous joy surfaced imagining the world engaged in a conversation about their passions, their true core selves, which then requires that they take action that will allow them to live inspired, fulfilled and free. And then I was trying to figure out what to do and my accountability partner said "nothing." Being with what is true for you is where you need to start and the rest flows from there. I see it over and over again, clients wanting to get into action, and skipping where they are, which leads to more of the same habits and suffering. But by being where we are, grace...joy...comes in and the rest flows from there. Amazed that as many things as I've faced, as many times as I've endeavored, here I was having to endeavor again. Grace. Two days later, my first draft of my collection of blogs is completed, former clients have agreed to share their incredible experience on my upcoming teleseminars, a new client has been signed, a 3-week intensive teleseminar that I'll be attending perfectly in alignment with aiding me in my next steps, two books resurfaced that remind me of who I am and...by being called to be with my core self, the rest flowed instantly from there.

I understand why it is easier to stick with our habits. That is something that we can do over and over and over again. But when we commit to a journey that is about our growth and living from our core, there is nothing static about it. We have to keep being reminded who we are and we have to keep being willing to go towards what we don't know, we have to keep jumping off the cliff and we have to surround ourselves with those committed to us living from our core. We have to sit and cry and feel the terror of the unknown. We have to keep journeying. We have to keep being authentic, even when we think we "don't wanna." We have to be willing to admit when we're wrong, be willing to apologize, be willing to say "I don't know." Be willing to say "I'm scared." Be willing to take responsibility. Endeavor to have the courage and be open to love and grace. Be willing to take responsibility to be who we were meant to be when placed here on this earth.

We are all under pressure, the world is calling us to be who we truly are. Don't give into the fears preached by your friends, family, on the news and mostly by the voices in your head. Habits are deadly, the world needs us to be bigger than our minds, the world is pressuring us to live from our SOUL. Endeavor to sit down, shed a tear and enjoy your life inspired , fulfilled and free!

Plan of Action: Please imagine what it would be like to bring in the New Year no longer resisting WHO YOU ARE. Pick one thing that you have been avoiding (bill, conversation, person, place or thing). Sit down and look at it for what it is. Don't try to figure out what to do (habit). Be where you are with it. Why are you afraid? What do you want? Has it been there for five years...five years from now do you still want it there? Be where you are with it. The rest will flow from there.

Join the SM Management Community's Free Teleseminar on November 30th from 9pm to 10pm to hear Tim Mendes, actor and business man share his experience of before and after working with SM Management. He is now "...loving reality!" Conference Call Line: 218-486-1616 Passcode: 931969#

If you'd like to be apart of the Core Conversations in Action discussion group on Facebook please send me an email at ccnaction@gmail.com and I will send you an invitation.

YOUR FREEDOM OR YOUR SHAME

Monday, October 5, 2009

Our unconscious plans manifest. Are your habits, systems and patterns leading you toward your freedom or toward your shame?


This has been an incredible couple of months for me and my clients. We have watched our dreams come true. Because together, we have made a committment to what we want, our actions has lead us towards our freedom; purchasing a second apartment, enjoying a planned vacation for the first time without the "need" to follow it up with a punishment, landing a part, moving out West, coming into BEING who you are and no longer feeling the need to be afraid, hide, or to punish ourselves for it. Consistently choosing to follow our core in spite of our fear of the unknown.


When we started this journey we had no idea where it would lead but it started for us all with our finances. Somehow we can let ourselves get away emotionally, where we can't financially. Having the conversation from the root . Facing the debts, the unopened mail, the true numbers of income to expenses, balancing checkbooks, and knowing what money is coming in and what money is going out. By facing and knowing our finances, the grip of shame we have around ourselves is confronted and therefore released. The fear and the "stories" we tell ourselves fade away because we've opened the mail, paid the bill, answered the phone and made arrangements, we've faced ourselves at our core. By knowing, we have the freedom to make a plan and feel as if we have some sense of control. Holding yourself accountable financially and realizing that you do have control, makes it possible to understand that you have that power in all areas of your life. Every week you are accounting for what came in and what was spent. Every week you are holding on to your receipts and placing them in the proper category and every day, week, month you are reconciling to the penny. Reconciling with yourself the "stories" of avoidance and shame.



PLAN OF ACTION:

Start preparing now to ensure that you bring in 2010 living your life fully and freely. Leave the baggage behind. Open the mail, answer the phone, make a plan. FACE YOUR FINANCES/FACE YOURSELF. Join those of us who have made a commitment not just in words but in actions to live fully. Don't wait for the new year, bring in the new year having already left your baggage behind so your year can start...FREE.

Sign up for a free consultation http://www.healingfinances.com/

Join us for the next Core Conversations In Action Teleseminar on Monday, October 26, 2009 from 9pm-10pm in the comfort of your own home.

218-486-1616

Passcode: 931969#

INSIDE CONNECTIONS

September 7, 2009

There are so many things to which we do not have the answers. The unknown. Have you ever noticed that when you're connected with others, in conversation, in tragedy, in triumph, there is a "different... deeper" experience for yourself? The more we isolate, hide, and remain inauthentic; the more separated we feel. Connections are so important. The entire mission of SM Management is to aid people through the fear, to face the shame and rewire their habitual patterns long enough to connect to themselves. Love, understanding and compassion for self is the only way for us to have the capacity to love, understand and have compassion for another.

The Deeply Personal
by Mark Nepo

Everything personal if faced belongs to everyone,

the way water riding up the chest of a horse returns to the river once the horse has crossed.

The deeply personal aspect of search,

which seems at times unbearable, leads us to the deeply common well

which once immersed in

tells us there is nothing else to search for.

Like snails who curl in shells

to be tossed by the sea, the soul

finds a life to inhabit.

So close your eyes and chance

to see your self from the inside.

Have you ever chanced seeing yourself from the inside? Was it terrifying? How did you survive? What did you discover?

Upcoming Opportunities to Connect:

Share your comments at http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/

Join Core Conversations In Action on Facebook. It's a closed group for the opportunity to create a safe space where we can be willing to share our truths. Email me at ccnaction@gmail.com if you'd like to join in the conversation and I'll send you an invitation.

I'm thrilled to announce the new monthly FREE Core Conversations In Action Connection Party. Direct from your own home! Every holiday season (3 year anniversary - blog formerly called Emotional Money http://www.emotionalmoney.blogspot.com/) I've listed very specific practices to help prepare you for the holiday "spend fest." This season let's actually do the preparation together! Face your unopened mail, clear your files, share your fears and shed your shames. Together let's create the action plan that will aid us all in entering 2010 living from our core - aligned & in action, inspired, fulfilled and consistently FREE!
CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTION CONNECTION PARTIES:

Monday September 28, 2009 9pm-10pm

Monday, October 26, 2009 9pm-10pm

Monday, November 30, 2009 9pm-10pm

Monday, December 28, 2009 9pm-10pm

Please RSVP at ccnaction@gmail.com and the call-in line information will be provided.

Be sure to mark your calendars.

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Enjoy the holiday!

Thank you Amanda & Tim for getting me all set up on Facebook!

Thank you Charlotte for getting my website and business cards updated so quickly.
Thank you Renee & Joanne for holding me accountable and for your wonderful coaching!
And thank you S and N for the wonderful dialogue, inquiry and conversations this month.

A SPIDER'S WEB

August 3, 2009

There is no conversation. Maybe there is, seperate, on your own, or with your friends. I hope so. But here, there is no conversation.

Standing on top of a mountain, it's such a beautiful mountain, shades of green everywhere and the smells, opportunity and promise is so present and real. But standing on top of a mountain alone, there is no conversation.

I know what to do. Tell everyone the truth. Life is really about pain and suffering and being so very hard. We are given the opportunity to dream so that it can be taken away from us. Go ahead and reach so that it can be taken away. Now if that was the conversation...

The subetly and distinctions of what is required to live your life inspired, fulfilled and free are soooooo minor and yet sooooo huge. It's hard to convey unless there is an authentic conversation. I know what to do. Tell everyone to keep faking what you feel to protect others. Keep pursuing your dreams even though you actually don't believe that you can have them. Keep going after what you believe you can't have. Keep protecting others and keep yourself miserable. Keep doing for others in order to distract yourself from you.
Now if that was the conversation I was seeking...

The truth. It is not welcomed. There are truths that are open to interpretation and then there are truths that just are. If we all could believe as we did when we first arrived on this planet that who we are is enough. What a different world it would be? What a difference in our actions, in our words and in our beliefs? What a difference in our conversations? If we could believe as we did when we first arrived on this planet that who we are is enough, what a different world it would be?

I tore down a spider web yesterday and felt sorry for the spider because I knew that it would have to build its home over again. Webs are so beautiful and strong and yet so very delicate. I apologized to the spider. It immediately knowing who and what its purpose here is already, crawled away and immediately began spinning it's web. My apology didn't matter, the fact that it had to build again didn't matter. The truth, that we were placed here to live in abundance and in ease is not welcomed. This conversation, this web I'm so dedicated to building, is not welcomed. There is no conversation. But standing on the mountain seeing and smelling the beauty, knowing what is true will have to sustain me. It'd be easier if I was a spider.

Although there is no coversation here right now, I hope that you are having an authentic conversation with yourself and/or with a friend. Remember if you didn't experience any sort of release(ease, exhilaration, peace) after having the conversation, the authentic conversation hasn't yet been had.

A core conversation resulting in authentic actions over and over and over again. Such a strong and yet such a delicate web.

CLEAR, CONCISE & SIMPLE

Can I tell you how much pleasure I get from doing inventory? Checking in items received and organizing them. Making it nice and neat.
Oh, that all of life could be so clear, concise, and simple.

Although I didn't hear back from anyone this month in regards to last months blog, I am just assuming that some of you may be drowning in the complexities of life. There is so very much going on. As I learned about the death of Micheal Jackson and I thought back to my Jeri Curl, black leather pants, white Micheal Jackson jacket with 100 zippers, decorated with Micheal Jackson buttons, OF COURSE, and yes I had the glove too... I hope that in death, that he has found peace. He was such a testament to the fact that all the money, fame and talent in the world makes no difference at all if you are not at peace on the inside. May he rest in peace.
May we learn to LIVE in peace.


May we use this INDEPENDENCE day to enjoy the simple pleasures in our lives.


PLAN OF ACTION: Seek out what pleases you and focus your thought, talk and action in that direction. Set 4 weekly goals around those pleasures and each week for the next month meet them! You'll be amazed at how quickly your life can alter in one month.

Remember, the next moment is not guaranteed.