tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-71177203430630229272024-03-13T23:10:23.570-04:00CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONFINAL BLOG: AUGUST 2010 -This blog was dedicated to providing words to educate and inspire us to take consistent aligned actions with who we are. In a world motivated by fear and lack, living a life of abundance, love and fulfillment is often criticized. Core Conversations in Action is dedicated to building a community in dialog and in action to support living life from the universal truth, we are here to live abundantly!CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-91625532832413972512010-08-02T08:29:00.001-04:002010-08-02T08:30:05.805-04:00AT THE LAKE<br /><br />August 2, 2010<br /><br />This will be my final regular blog.<br />I believe that if we only had two doors to choose from, death and the truth, 95% of people would choose death. To face our greatest fears, to reveal our secrets, to discover that if we said what was actually true for us, we believe that we will never be loved. When in fact the opposite is true. Until we reveal our truths then it is always the leverage that convinces us of why we are unworthy of the love we seek. We must first love ourselves.<br /><br />SM Management is a business but I have come to understand that my purpose is not to grow my business. My purpose is to continue to live from my truth authentically. Writing my blogs or doing facebook were suggestions made by clients who enjoy this medium. I enjoy authentic human engagements and there can be so much left unsaid in this medium. I have learned a lot but can no longer pretend. What I have discussed in my blogs, the conversations with my clients, is not a business to me. It is my life. Growing up I always avoided what I knew because it scared me. Someone would say something and it was if there was a loud speaker that said the truth. I have in the last few months lost friends because I just couldn't ignore the loud speaker anymore. I watched them suffer and recreate the same challenges over and over and decided to say something. I tried to ignore their blatant actions that conveyed their truths but in the end I can't pretend that I don't know. I know more than anyone, until you are ready, you are not ready. So I understand. But understanding doesn't make it any easier. I do think though that most people would rather die than reveal their truth. It is a shame that we have been programmed this way because it is the exact revealing of the truth that would allow us to begin to heal and release. But it can be a pain because to continue to heal and release you have to keep being honest with yourself and telling the truth in a world that encourages the quick fix. The quick fix is only temporary and my interests is in the long term commitment to the truth. Long term commitment to love, heart and truth.<br /><br />I used to think my purpose was to be a singer, dancer and actress. Then it was to be an actress. Then it was to build my business. Now it is to get out of debt. But at the root, it is and as always been, to live inspired, fulfilled and free. When I am at the lake surrounded by rabbits, geese, water and trees, here in beautiful Upstate New York I experience that. When I am speaking with my remaining friends and/or clients that have come to love who they are because they faced their truths, I experience that. I am 37 years old and honestly I am tired. I want to live in peace with beauty surrounding me and authentic love, trust and people willing to to put their core conversations in action.<br /><br />This is my last regular blog. I want to engage in Core Conversations. This process requires time and trust and if a person is just looking for the quick fix and not willing to go within then sadly they will just circle back to where they have always been. There are plenty of places people can go to get the "quick fix." I am not interested in the continuation of the suffering, I am interested in the healing and the release and people knowing that who they are is enough.<br /><br />I have known when someone is going to die, I have felt natural disasters before they came, I have looked at someone and felt their pain. I have discovered here in the natural beauty of things that I am home. I am inspired and free. I am growing and I am aware that I may not have everything I want, but I am so aware that I do always have everything I need.<br /><br />Before I sign off one last time, I am hoping if I give an example of an actual conversation, it may inspire you to some time open the door to the truth instead of to your repeated death.<br /><br /><br />>Client: I see from the numbers what I have to do.<br /><br />Me: What is it that you have to do.<br /><br />Client: The thing that has no creativity, the thing that I hate.<br /><br />Me: So if you know that you hate it and thank you for admitting that, why is it that you think that you just have to do it.<br /><br />Client: Because I am an adult. And I can't just keep being immature. I will make it work. I always do. It is fine. I will do it.<br /><br />Me: What if you let go of that habit of forcing yourself to do what you don't believe in. Start there and see what shows up. You are not being immature, it is simply what is true for you and that is ok. What if you didn't keep stopping at what is not true for you. What would be possible?<br /><br />Client: Stop it. This is what I have to do and that's it.<br /><br />Me: Why do we keep doing this to ourselves? Every meeting we've had, it's ended with the suffering. The truth is as you just stated, you don't want to build your business this way. This is the foundation which causes you to suffer so that will always be the result. Always. I am asking you to start from what is actually true for you and go from there.<br /><br />Client: Why? I might not like it but that is just the way it is.<br /><br />Me: But it isn't just the way it is. You know you don't want to build your business this way.<br /><br />Client: But the numbers show it is the only way to make the business viable.<br /><br />Me: Yes, and more than the numbers, I believe and have seen that when we go from what is true for us, the rest will fall into place, numbers, time, etc. but first we MUST BE WILLING TO ADMIT WHAT IS TRUE AND TAKE ACTION FROM THERE. If you didn't believe that you have to suffer and just make it work what else would be possible.<br /><br />Client: You're not going to let this go.<br /><br />Me:No, because there is no pleasure in these meetings always ending with suffering. Something else is possible but you must first go from what is true. First you faced the numbers and saw why the business was losing money. Then you saw that the most viable way to earn the money still wasn't going to be enough and on top of that it is a business that you would hate. What if you did not have to force yourself to do a business you hate. What else is possible?<br /><br />Client...Well, ok. Yes, I don't want the business to be...that would be awful. I would hate it and no I don't want to do that.<br /><br />Me: Good. That is the truth. What do you want to do?<br />Client: When I started the business I wanted....wait...oh..if I go back to what it was supposed to be originally...oh my god....I started trying to make it fit into something else...I lost sight of my own visions....oh my god...(she drew out her business...) everything that she had spent 4 years suffering through all clicked in to place once she was willing to admit her truth. Her resistance to what was true, her habit having trained her to call herself "immature", contributed to much suffering over several years. Once she admitted it, in less than a half an hour she was full of possibility. She could tangibly see how she could now make her dreams a reality by following her core truths. She had to first be with what was true and she will now need to consistently be willing to admit her truths and make decisions and take actions from there. Death and suffering is built into our habits, truth is our only opportunity for it to be released.<br /><br />I am now willing to admit my truth. My purpose is not to grow my business, my purpose is live the rest of my days authentically engaged with others ready and willing to live authentically.<br />I'm off to live my purpose. If you need me, you know where to find me.<br />I'll be AT THE LAKE.<br /><br />May you be apart of the 5% opening the door to your truth consistently- it is the only path for your healing, love and release!CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-36945310665530842862010-07-05T14:19:00.003-04:002010-07-05T14:45:04.297-04:00July 5, 2010<div><br /></div><div><i>Article Published in The NorthEastern Holistic Resource July 2010.</i></div><div><i>A magazine supporting Integrative Health Care for Balance of body, Mind and Spirit.</i></div><div> </div><div><!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">HEALING FINANCES: </span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">PART TWO</span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">By Samarra Mbenga</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">How is it possible to have a financial healing when you are facing foreclosure, bankruptcy, and being laid off?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You are stressed, afraid, and feeling as if your life is coming apart.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>STOP and face it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Part of the reasons for our fears is that as we are running (this includes constantly helping others) we are still carrying the weight.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But as soon as you stop and face it, you are giving yourself the opportunity to actually put the weight down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Once you face it, then you can devise a plan to deal with it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">In the last article I encouraged you to address yourself spiritually.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>First, stop blaming your money, second, pay attention to yourself and third track your income and spending daily.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If you have followed through on these steps (please read June 2010 issue) now you are ready to implement a practical tool. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Again it is not enough to read this article. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Before the month is over please actually do the items listed below.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight:normal"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">Knowing</i></b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"> </i>is not enough, it is about what you will discover when you <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight:normal"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">experience</i> </b>the steps below.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 1.</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Take 3 deep breaths.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 2.</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Make a calendar. Do this with crayons, color paper; anything that as a child you had fun playing with. Follow these steps as the child in you that welcomed projects as a new adventure. (If you prefer computers, use the calendar spreadsheet and follow the steps below accordingly.) <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Make sure each date has room to write/enter in several entries.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 3.</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Gather all of your Bills - (If this sentence makes you cringe start with 3 bills.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Add 3 bills each day until it’s complete.) Be present.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Don’t try to figure anything out with your mind, simply gather your bills and place them in the appropriate dates. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Take 3 deep breaths.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 4.</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"> <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Write the bill and amount due on the corresponding calendar date</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">(i.e. Mortgage $600 written in space for July 1st on calendar, $500 Car Insurance written in space for July 15<sup>th<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></sup>on calendar, etc.)</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 5:</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"> Gather your income (make sure accurate amt. after taxes, etc.) Write the source and the income amount on the corresponding date(s) on the calendar</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family: Helvetica;color:#621D35">Step 6:</span></b><span style="font-size:13.0pt; font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"> Be present.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Breathe.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); "> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">What has unfolded?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>What do you notice? <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">Write down what comes to you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">For example: If you have more income the second week of the month and many more bills the last week of the month then the “extra” from the second week you pay towards the bills that are due the last week of the month. Instead of getting to the last week and saying “I don’t have enough money.”</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">If you see that every week your expenses are far outweighing your income, then you need to cut your expenses.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You may have to make some tough choices at first but you will feel in control of the situation as you begin to experience that you do have enough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It is the beginning of putting down the weight.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This will result in you experiencing peace spiritually which will then allow abundance to manifest physically. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But you will first need to be honest about where you are now and act accordingly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">Make a plan (based on what is in front of you).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If you are present ,you will experience possibility.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If all you are experiencing is the same pain and fear then that is an indication that you are operating from the habitual patterns of your mind.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Breathe and return to the spiritual practice outlined in the June 2010 issue.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Return to the calendar.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Repeat this process until possibility unfolds.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;mso-pagination: none;mso-layout-grid-align:none;text-autospace:none"><span style="font-size: 13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica;mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><o:p> </o:p></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Helvetica; font-size: 17px; color: rgb(98, 29, 53); ">You can heal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We have spent years approaching our finances from a place of fear, secrecy and dread.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>When we are uncomfortable with something, we don’t enjoy spending time with it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We avoid it for as long as we can or we look for shortcuts to get it over with.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>If you find a process that can allow you to enjoy the process itself, it will become easier and easier to approach your finances from a place of discovery, possibility and eventually even enjoyment. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Do this calendar for at least three months. Once you begin to face yourself spiritually, you will begin to focus on your strengths instead of your fears and learn to have compassion for your weaknesses.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You will like yourself a little more and you will be able to face your finances because you will have faced yourself.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica; mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">We are a culture that has been invested in the shortcut. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We are shown everyday, that in the long run shortcuts do not work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This process is about you experiencing the possibility of financial ease and peace for the long term.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I invite you to try something different.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Stop running.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Put the weight down.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The results are 100%.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>When we face the root of what we have been avoiding, what is on the other side is our core peace.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica; mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35">Face your finances.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Make your calendar today.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Face yourself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Stop blaming your money.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Pay attention to yourself and track your income and expenses daily.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It’s 100% guaranteed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Take actions on these steps and experience spiritual and financial ease and peace!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:13.0pt;font-family:Helvetica; mso-bidi-font-family:Helvetica;color:#621D35"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></span></p> <!--EndFragment--> </div>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-85289292868645855042010-06-06T11:45:00.011-04:002010-06-07T09:38:11.614-04:00June 6, 2010<div><br /></div><div><i>Article Published this month in <b>The NorthEastern Holistic Resource</b>: A Magazine Supporting Integrative Health Care for Balance of Body, Mind and Spirit.</i></div><div><br /></div><div><b>Healing Finances</b> by Samarra Mbenga</div><div><!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">Healing Finances.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>What exactly does that mean?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It means to <i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">experience</i> financial ease and peace.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>There is a distinct difference between knowing something and doing something.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I When we face our finances, we face ourselves.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">How many times have you wanted to do something and used money as the reason that you decide not to? <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>How many times have you punished yourself for what you should have done with your money? Or maybe, you‘ve taken various seminars on creating and implementing a budget and a few months later the old habits have returned.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Did you ever stop to consider that the issues actually have nothing to do with money?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>They repeat themselves, no matter how hard you try to correct it, because the solutions you are implementing have nothing to do with the cause of the problem.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Our financial systems are simply mirroring our beliefs. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Because our finances connect to every single area of our lives, when we deal with our finances, we are automatically addressing ourselves.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I think many of us know this intellectually but we need to implement an approach, which goes beyond <i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">knowing</i> to actually <i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">experiencing.</i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Unless we have first identified the root issue and then put in place a practice that we can authentically and consistently repeat, the old patterns remain and we cannot consistently face our finances or ourselves. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We operate many times unconsciously and the pointers I will be making below are to help you stop and begin to operate consciously. </p> <p class="MsoNormal">The elements to this process are spiritual and practical.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>One without the other creates an imbalance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>To budget without discovering a system that is in alignment with you spiritually is to create a budget that will not last long.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>To meditate and take part in many healing spiritual practices during the day and then avoid your mail and your checking account at night means you are engaging in temporary fixes which is very different from actually healing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The process that will create a healing in your finances and in your life requires a conscious effort to address yourself spiritually and practically.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">They are:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> 1. Stop blaming your money</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"> 2. Pay attention to you</p><p class="MsoNormal"> 3. Track your income and spending.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><b> <!--StartFragment--> </b></p><b><p class="MsoNormal"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight:normal"><o:p> </o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"> 1. </span><span class="Apple-style-span"> STOP BLAMING YOUR MONEY</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"> - What would happen if you went beyond the first thought that came to you. “If I had money then I would….” or “If I made more money than I could…” If you removed money as the reason, what would you discover? For example I had a client this weekend that was very stressed about the fact that she spent $2000 in one week. I asked her to consider what she was really upset about. Her first response was that everything was fine; she just needed to get responsible and stop her spending. She blamed her relationship with money. After several more questions it turned out that she had agreed to meet her mother somewhere that she really didn’t want to go. “This happens all the time with my mother. She only wants to do what she wants to do. We just can’t communicate. But I’m not upset about it. It’s always been that way. I just deal with it, it’s no big deal.” She was blaming her relationship with money but really, it was the relationship with her mother that was at the root of the issue and had been for many, many years. It was a very big deal. But instead of being willing to say what was true for her, she instead settled and spent the week anxious and trying to medicate with money. When she made money the problem, her solutions didn’t stop her from spending because it wasn’t really the problem. Stop blaming your money.</span></p> <!--EndFragment--> </b><p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">2.<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight:normal"> PAY ATTENTION TO YOU</b> – She ran around the entire week spending and punishing herself for spending.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This next step requires that you STOP.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>One practical way to help you do this is to take at least take three deep breaths in the morning and three deep breaths in the evening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This will allow you to reconnect with yourself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You will notice that sometimes you will feel differently than you thought you did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You may have on a happy smiling face and as soon as you stop, tears come to your eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Stop and see if you can get to the reason why.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>There is a reason.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>The way to know that you haven’t gotten to the core reason is that you keep engaging in the activities that cause you to feel upset.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Out of habit we say that we are upset because ““I am bad with numbers,” or “I’m an irresponsible person.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>When in fact, your financial system is simply revealing that there is an unresolved spiritual/emotional need asking for help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This client was in pain and had been taught that spending and settling makes you feel better.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It used to, but she had reached a point in her life where it was no longer enough.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Because she wasn’t paying attention to herself, she wasn’t able to admit the real issue so she had no idea how to engage in behaviors that would cause her to experience peace.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">The relief comes when we face it; it is never as bad as we fear.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>As soon as you take the time to understand why you feel the way you feel, you instantly experience what is possible. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You finally have the answer to your “why.” Until you STOP and PAY ATTENTION TO YOU, you never get the experience of the release. Sometimes we think that it is easier to believe that there is something wrong with us than it is to face our fears.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>My client had faced her fear and now she was ready to face her mother and tell her the truth.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>“I don’t want to meet you close to the mall so we have the distraction of shopping.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I want to actually just sit down, have a meal and actually spend time with each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Why can’t we just spend time together?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She realized, that it is not that she and her mother can’t communicate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It is that she first has to be connected and in communication with herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Please stop and take at least three deep breaths in the morning and in the evening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Connect and pay attention to yourself.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight:normal">3. TRACK YOUR INCOME & SPENDING DAILY<o:p></o:p></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Write down daily what you bought and the amount of the item.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Write down the amount you received and from where.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We are often quick to track spending but so often leave out what we have received.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Please track both.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It does not matter if you have done this before.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It only matters that you do it now coupled with the two items above.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Because this client had followed the coaching and had kept track of her spending, when we added the numbers she saw that the income ratio more than doubled what she had spent.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Prior, she had just been telling herself that she had spent more than she had.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But by having the actual numbers, the habit of blaming the money had lost all of its power.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She could see for herself that something else had to be in play.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Track your income and spending so you may shed the habitual emotional money blame.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Remember the point of this article is not just to read it, but also to actually follow through in action.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">Talking, reading and learning about something are not enough</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>You need to <i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">experience</i> yourself and we have to move the excuse of money out of the way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It is an energy that we use to make manifest our belief.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This client believed that her and her mother could never communicate. That is painful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>More importantly, it wasn’t true. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We fear facing our finances and ourselves because we believe in what is not true.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>We repeat the actions that cause us the pain and reinstate the belief.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But she <i style="mso-bidi-font-style:normal">experienced</i> that it wasn’t true and that is the difference in this process.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>By taking action on these three steps, the repeated pain is immediately taken away.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>By paying attention to herself she can communicate what is true for her to her mother.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She suddenly feels at peace and in control and tears come to her eyes because she glimpses the possibility that she and her mother can communicate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>She realizes that there isn’t something wrong with her. Every time she is untrue to herself and chooses to blame her money, the old patterns of pain will surface again.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>But every time she is truthful to herself, peace, control and possibility are experienced again. </p> <p class="MsoNormal">I would love to hear about what you experience when you implement these steps.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Feel free to email or call for your free consultation.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Remember, if nothing changes for you by the middle of the month, you are not practicing the three steps consistently.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>First, consider that money is not the issue. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Second, stop and pay attention to you using breathing as a tool and third track your financial income and spending. In a future article, I will share a very simple and practical tool that anyone can use to help them face, implement, use and even enjoy their financial planning.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Face your finances, face yourself!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It is never as bad as what your mind thinks.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Face it so YOU can <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">experience </i>spiritual and financial<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"> </i>ease and peace!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <!--EndFragment--> </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-87880297189048146972010-05-02T10:25:00.014-04:002010-05-03T08:15:36.733-04:00BEYOND WHAT YOU CAN SEEMay 3, 2010<div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><br /></span></b></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Two deer together. </span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">One is by the woods. The other has ventured closer to the highway.<br />On one side: green trees and quiet.<br />On the other: 8 lanes, hundreds of cars going at least 60 miles an hour.<br />They are animals, they do not know the concept of death.</span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">We are human. We do. </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">We choose to take the highway. When we make it to the other side, we can revel in "wow, look what I did, I made it through that!" We get hit over and over; broken legs, broken arms, mostly broken hearts. It doesn't seem quite as thrilling to get to the other side of the woods because we can't see what we'll be facing until we chance going in. What we face in the woods is ourselves. It's so much more thrilling to be able to see the cars and hear their roar and say that that is the thing responsible for our suffering. We pat ourselves on the back, lick each others wounds and revel in what we conquered. "Oh yours was a red car, well, that was nothing, mine was a semi, can't you hear the roar!"<br /><br />As humans, we know that we will die. We can give ourselves the false hope that we are in control, by choosing the same tangible obstacles, over and over and over and over again. My clients are always ready to think that a question is about how they are going to be made wrong, it never occurs to them that it so they can know for themselves why they are right. They are always prepared for the cars, the bruise and the pain. They have been on the highway. Now that they have begun to venture into the woods, they are always surprised by their new experiences of peace. <br /> </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">One thing about the "highway" is that the result is always the same. Some form of pain, suffering, and fear gets constantly repeated no matter the job, the relationship, the house, or the amount of money made. No matter what happens externally, the internal sense is the same; "there is something wrong with me." We are afraid to go towards the woods because we think that our greatest fears are going to be confirmed. We are afraid to face anything except the the roar (bills, job, relationship, etc.) because we think it is going to confirm what we already believe. By going into the woods, I have discovered that our greatest fears are not true. In the woods there is plenty of food, beauty and peace. Less dodging and fighting, less of what we know already. There are few cars. There is ourselves, beautiful and free. The wood and the highway are always parallel, it is up to us to choose to go beyond what we can see.<br /></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; font-size:medium;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">The young deer near the highway, I pray it goes towards the woods. It does not know about death, so it may not. We do. We most often choose the highway. But our bounty is right there waiting for us, beyond what we can see, the wood parallel to the highway, ourselves beautiful and free! </span></span></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" border-collapse: collapse; font-family:arial, sans-serif;font-size:13px;"></span><b><br /></b></div><div><b>PLAN OF ACTION:</b></div><div>Identify what is the wood and what is the highway in your life. </div><div>Choose actions that will allow you to have peace. It isn't enough to <b><i>want</i></b> peace, you will have to <b><i>e</i></b><b><i>xperience</i></b> it. You will have to have the courage to take actions that may go against your habits. We have the perfect barometer. The fight with yourself is simply that you keep taking actions that are in reaction to who you thought you were or against who you are. <i><b>Take actions that lead you to your peace</b></i><b>, </b><i><b>it will be beyond what you can</b></i><b> </b><i><b>see</b></i>. It's scary at first but well worth it! Go away from the roar of the highway and towards the quiet of the woods.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Did you get your taxes done? Give yourself the experience of the woods. Get off of the highway before the end of May!</span></span></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div></div>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-85853953631668937822010-04-04T12:56:00.013-04:002010-04-05T07:44:46.169-04:00A CANE ON ICE, IT'S TAX TIMEApril 5, 2010<div><br /></div><div><b>A CANE ON ICE, IT'S TAX TIME!</b></div><div><br /></div><div> I attended my first Crappy Derby this year. (Remember the movie Grumpy Old Men). It exists. Trucks and building structures and people on a frozen lake; fishing.</div><div><br /></div><div>There is a gentleman probably in his upper 80's with a cane pulling a sled with his "building and "fishing supplies" behind him. I am amazed that he is out here on the ice with a cane! I realize that he has probably been doing this annual Crappy Derby for longer than I have been alive. He was going to participate no matter what. It is what he had always done. I was reminded instantly of the power of our habits. They will put us in danger, have us ignore what is before us in plain sight. What price are we are willing to pay to do as we have always done?</div><div> </div><div><br /></div><div>Taxes, taxes, taxes, they are our friend.</div><div>Well...I enjoy getting a refund. A lump sum of money. But I used to always hate having to go through all of my receipts. I spent days going over my receipts, but the accountant always had other questions that would involve more days of looking things up. I had always been told if I tallied up my expenses and income monthly, it would make things a whole lot easier. But year after year I instead choose to do what I had always done. Tally, sort, and search through receipts and dread, dread, dread tax time. </div><div><br /></div><div>I finally had to recognize that doing what I had always done was not working. I was tired enough of the dread to be willing to do what I had never done before. Tally my receipts monthly. Last year, it took hours to do my taxes, instead of days. This year it took less than 10 minutes!! I took note of what the accountant really needed last year and I set my spreadsheet up with those categories included. Practically, it took 10 minutes. But what was most important was that this tax season, spiritually, I had no feelings of dread! </div><div><br /></div><div>If you have not done your taxes, please, please, please, please get them done. Aren't you tired of having to pay a price? Turn off the tv, turn on the radio, invite over a friend, pop some popcorn, get the box of receipts, pull out your check ledgers, pull up your credit card/bank statements online and start calculating. Get it over with! In many cases you are only keeping yourself from receiving your refund. If you owe and can't pay the whole amount, set up a payment plan. You must tackle practically what you have been avoiding. It is the only way for you to spiritually be free of the dread.</div><div><br /></div><div>If you carve out time and make yourself a priority in the way that you make your job or your family a priority, it will be done. Put yourself on the calendar. If you are filing with your spouse, pull out your calendars together and mark the date and time to do it together. If it takes you five hours to do it, that will still be less than the 24 hour day after day process of living in dread from now until April 15th. Or if you think it is better to put in an extension, then you live with the dread from now until October! Please, get off of the ice. </div><div><br /></div><div>Why are we willing to hold on to our habits that produce months and years of dread? Why are we willing to live our lives with a cane on ice? </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div><b>PLAN OF ACTION:</b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal; ">Finish your taxes!</span></b></div><div>Allow yourself to be free of the dread.</div><div>Use the rest of the month to complete your spreadsheet. Collect and add your receipts monthly. Note what you or the accountant needed. Set up your categories accordingly. Tally your receipts, income, expenses, mileage, whatever pertains to you, <b>each month</b>. Use the month of April to get your systems in place for the rest of the year. (Refer to February's blog for a mock spreadsheet.)</div><div><br /></div><div>I would love to know how you feel about tax time? Have you done them? Why or why not? What process do you use? What do you need spiritually and/or practically to get your taxes done?</div></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> </div>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-66251604366847858882010-02-28T13:38:00.011-05:002010-03-01T07:25:57.516-05:00PART I: SPIRITUALLY; PART II PRACTICALLYMarch 1, 2010<div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>PART I -SPIRITUALLY</b></div><div><br /></div><div>My 1999 Gold Buick LeSabre is spacious and solid and provides everything I need. I drive over 300 to 400 miles per week and I just surpassed the 200,000 mile mark. Lately I've been feeling like it's a little shakier than normal. I check the tires and the oil constantly. Those are things I know how to do. I hesitate on taking it to a mechanic. Then riding home in a snow storm, suddenly the car powers down. The needle goes from 40 to 0 in an instant. I can no longer steer. I press the gas and nothing happens. I'm 45 minutes from home in the middle of no where. I put on my hazards. A few minutes later I turn the key. It starts up instantly, Practically speaking it was a smooth ride home. Spiritually, long and very shaky.</div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: bold; ">PART II - PRACTICALLY</span></div><div> </div><div>Begin gathering your receipts so you can know specifically where you are spending your money. That will provide you with information you can see and trust. Only from there can you begin to make a plan. From what I have seen with my clients, in most cases they have more than they think they do. The item they have been holding off on, they have spent four times that amount on other things. In one case I had a client who wanted to get her own apartment. She was living with roommates and wanted to be on her own. When she began looking for an apartment, she looked for places that she didn't really love thinking that that was all she could afford. She hired me, expecting to be told why she needed to remain living with her roommates. After two sessions together, she discovered that she had been short changing herself. Once she completed her weekly assignments, she saw she had more than enough funds to go for the apartment that she REALLY wanted. Because she wasn't willing to face her finances, she kept herself in a habitual box depriving herself of what she wanted. Though financially, practically, she had all she needed. Spiritually, she was shaky, doing only what she knew to do; keep herself in lack. </div><div><br /></div><div><b>PART I & II EMBRACE, LET GO, BE SPIRITUAL & PRACTICAL</b></div><div>Practically: Did you try any one of the Action Steps from February's blog? Spiritually, do you know why or why not?</div><div><br /></div><div>Sometimes we're riding along smoothly. Other times we're riding along but we have a sense that there is something shaky underneath. Usually there are hints provided and eventually we're powered down. We can turn the key and as long as it keeps going, we pretend that everything is ok. We do what we've always done until we're stranded at the side of the road. Don't wait until then. Facing our finances provides the balance of the spiritual and practical. Reread February's blog. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#CC66CC;">Complete the practical spectrum of this financial journey so your spirit can Embrace, Let Go & Be Free! </span></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b>PLAN OF ACTION: <i>See Above!</i></b></div><div><br /></div><div> </div><div><br /></div><div> </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> </div><div><br /></div><div> </div>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-65086448352181171322010-02-26T22:04:00.000-05:002010-02-26T22:05:22.835-05:00KNOWING<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; border-collapse: collapse; ">February 1, 2010<div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><br /></span></b></div><div><br /></div><div>It's one month into the New Year. How are you doing on your New Year's Resolutions? Have you already forgotten what you said you wanted to accomplish this year? </div><div><br /></div><div>New Year's day I found myself stranded in Erie Pennsylvania in two feet of snow. My financial plans wrecked, and my spirit in the toilet, I thought, "how can this be happening?" This was going to be the check where I was going to... But life as always had its own plans. We can make resolutions, we can set goals, but at the end of the day LIFE will do as it chooses. This is a given. However, when there is no system, plan or goals in place, all we find ourselves doing is reacting, reacting, and digging ourselves further in the hole. </div><div><br /></div><div>We can not stop life from happening but we can help ourselves be more prepared. AVOIDANCE IS NOT PREPARATION. I know that is the system that most of us have in place to deal with our finances but it does not work. I know it is scary to face the bills that never seem to stop coming, but how much better will you feel knowing each month that on this date this amount will be due? How much better will you feel tallying up your credit card debt and seeing what the number is versus every month paying the minimum and never understanding why the balance just doesn't seem to move anywhere? The solution IS NOT to simply ignore it and charge something else. I was angry on New Year's because my "financial plan" was wrecked. But because I had had a system in place, for once I wasn't financially wrecked. I was just really angry and so sad because I was going to be ahead of the game - make an extra payment, put money in savings, get my sweetheart a gift...none of those plans were possible. But I also didn't spend to ease the pain. I knew based on the system that I had in place, to go on an emotional spending spree would only cause me pain for much longer than just the weekend. I didn't plan on being trapped in another town, but I was prepared for it. </div><div><br /></div><div>If one of your New Year's resolutions involved you getting your financial picture together, I invite you to take action NOW. If it wasn't on your list but you have a pile of "avoided" mail, I invite you to add it to your resolutions list. NOW is the perfect beginning, You're at the beginning of the month very close to the start of the new year. One of my clients followed through on her New Year's resolution to continue her work with me. I won't ever forget the smile on her face this week when after we opened the "avoided" mail she discovered out of 6 envelopes, 4 were reminders or statements and two were bills but both less than $50. One was going to be due the next day and had she not opened it, it would have been late so by time she faced it, there would have been late fees. After the "avoided" pile was off of her shoulders she was freed up and ready to place her monthly bills on a one month calendar. In an instant she found herself automatically making a financial plan. The habitual anxiety she faced each month "not knowing" was immediately replaced with peace of mind. She could now "see" that she was in control of her finances, something that she had never in over 50 years of her life had ever experienced. There has not been one client in three in a half years that faced their finances who did not end up with a smile on their face. Not one, no matter their financial earnings and positions. The physical money is not the point. YOU ARE. Turn and face it. </div><div><br /></div><div>KNOWING what you have will help you have some control instead of simply being the victim to your bills and having to react over and over, robbing Peter to pay Paul. <br /></div><div><br /></div><div>If you have no idea where to begin, choose any one of the below items to get you started:</div><div>1. Gather your bills and write the company and amount due on a month to month calendar. </div><div>2. Keep your receipts, don't throw them away. (Ask for it, if its not given to you.) At the end of each day/week/month separate them into categories i.e. groceries, eating out, entertainment, etc. and get a monthly total for each category. At the end of the year you don't have to scramble to get your records together for the tax person. You don't have to wonder where your money went. </div><div>3. I have attached a modified version of my actual spreadsheet. Begin by using my categories: plug your numbers in and adjust/add/delete the categories that pertain to you. </div><div><br /></div><div>4. If you try any of the 3 items listed above and you find yourself in tears and/or hyperventilating. Stop. Give me a call and I will help you take the first step (free of charge). </div><div><br /></div><div>If I had known then what I know now, my financial situation would be so much better. But since I started facing it, I KNOW 3 years from now, as long as I keep facing it, it WILL be better. The sooner you start the better. Tomorrow is not guaranteed for any of us. So commit to taking the action right now. Try it for one month and you will have a smile on your face. The greatest thing that can help our economy in the long run will be each of us individually taking responsibility and facing our financial situations truthfully and consistently. </div><div><br /></div><div>We can't predict the future; life has its own plans, but we CAN know where we stand in the present. When we don't know where we stand now and we simply wait to react, we have no solid foundation on which to build our future. </div><div><br /></div><div>Don't waste more time "thinking" about it. Just pick one of the four items above and begin taking action on it TODAY. </div><div>I'd love to hear your insights, questions and/or comments on what occurred for you one day, one week, one month after following one of these action items. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; "><b><span style="font-size: 14pt; ">“Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice.</span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; "><b><span style="font-size: 14pt; ">It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”</span></b></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; "><span style="font-size: 14pt; ">William Jennings<span> </span>Bryan, American Politician</span></p></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></span>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-63941783947509736932010-02-26T21:59:00.001-05:002010-02-26T22:01:07.926-05:00HAPPY NEW YEAR<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; border-collapse: collapse; "><div>January 8, 2010</div><div> </div><div>Thank you to all of you that have joined <i>Core Conversations In Action</i>. There haven't been many conversations amongst us, but I hope that at some point throughout the year, there was a word, phrase or quote here that provided you with what you may have needed. </div><div> </div><div>New Year's Day I was stuck with a broken down vehicle in Erie, PA with two feet of snow. I was heading to Columbus, Ohio to retrieve the last of my grandmother's things. We never made it. Three days later, money and time lost, and we only made it ten minutes outside of the New York state line. Life is funny, that is for sure. We just never know. I know I am late writing and I apologize for the delay. </div><div> </div><div>This <span class="il" style="background-image: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; -webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 204); background-position: initial initial; ">blog</span> was created to share and have conversations about approaching life from a place of inspiration and hope even when it seems that fear, lack and pain are all there is. Life is a cycle. </div><div> </div><div>I wish everyone, peace, love and may you find within yourself and from your loved ones all that will inspire you to the next minute, the next hour, the next day, month, season and year! </div><div><br /></div><div>Remember "time doesn't heal, truth heals." (The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship by Mark Goulston, M.D.) May you find the courage to be and act from your core; upon what is TRUE. </div><div> </div><div>Happy New Year! </div><div> </div></span>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-4246312834037023202009-12-10T17:29:00.009-05:002009-12-10T17:44:00.264-05:00BEINGThis was sent to my blog list on Monday, December 7th. Due to technical difficulties with Blogger it is just being published here on December 10th. To ensure you receive it on the first of the month be sure to subscribe to my email list by sending me an email with "subscribe to blog" in subject line at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a>. I hope you enjoy it and if so please pass it along! <br /><br />“The process of getting there is the quality of being there.”<br /><br />Creating Money, Keys to Abundance by Sanaya Roman & Duane Packer<br /><br /><br /><br />The resistance to facing the root of our issues is where we spend most of our time. And in turn our habitual patterns reign. The thought of facing our fears terrifies us because we believe it is going to come out worse than where it already is. But the opposite is true. When we choose to not be authentic, to hide from ourselves, we are simply allowing the hurricane of our lives to continue to swirl. We pretend that we are happy in our relationships, we pretend we are not in debt and continue shopping, we choose to say nothing to our molesters and have to sit with them at the dinner table every holiday. We hold onto our jobs that bring us misery and pain and we tell ourselves "everything is fine", or "just a few more years". Because we are in denial, afraid to face our truth, it surfaces in other ways; we gain tons of weight, are in the hospital with one illness or another, are agitated and stressed and constantly reaching for a drink, or numbing ourselves looking at the tv/computer screen all day.<br /><br /><br /><br />When we are able to face our fears, our truths, only then can we discover that there are infinite possibilities. When we look from our habit, from our fear, the option is usually “I have no option, I have no choice.” When we look from the root, suddenly we enter the world of the unknown and instantly an infinite number of possibilities exist. Possibilities that provide healing and release. Possibilities that allow us to get healthy, turn off the tv and put down the drink. Are you planning on charging up your credit cards for the holiday? Are you planning on spending the year running from your fears? Just ask yourself how long you have spent running and pretending? Has it worked so far? If not, consider "facing it" and see what happens. You'd be amazed. I've watched clients who've avoided their taxes for 3 years, once facing it, getting them all done in less than 3 months only to discover that they have a huge refund coming even with the late fees. I've watched someone give up their toxic relationship only to discover and engage in activities they enjoyed which in turn brought them abundance financially and the peace of mind to have abundance spiritually. I've watched clients choose to face their molesters which allowed them to shed their shames, pain and blame. I've also watched clients choose to not go all the way to face their root fears and truths. And although they have a glimpse of some release, they don't experience the eye popping transformations that create abundance in all areas of their lives. This formula works 100% of the time. When the root isn't faced, the habitual patterns resurface again and again and again. When the root fears are faced, extraordinary transformations take place again and again and again. 100% of the time. Which cycle would you like to be on this year?!<br /><br /><br />Start the year 2010; start right now, getting to where you want to be by allowing yourself to experience "being there." You can be there when you know you've chosen to send a card instead of charging a $500.00 gift you know you can't afford. You can "be there" when you are moment to moment to moment comfortable in your own skin. Secrets, hiding and robbing Peter to pay Paul is exhausting. Please take this year to STOP and allow yourself to shed the shames, pains and blames so you may get to the real YOU. Face your root fears because YOU, is a very beautiful thing. HAPPY NEW YEAR!<br /><strong></strong><br /><br /><strong>Plan of Action:</strong><br /><br />Sit quietly with yourself at least 15 minutes every day. Practice BEING. Spend your day noticing in your actions and interactions how often you are pulled away from yourself. Pay attention to YOU. Practice actions and interactions that allow you to BE. (Remember they may not be the actions you think or the actions you've spent years engaging in. That is okay).<br /><br />If you need support, please call me for your free consultation at 718-350-6095<br /><br />Dedicated to building communities living inspired, fulfilled and free!CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-35876823044125611232009-10-31T23:38:00.019-04:002009-11-02T22:49:19.195-05:00ENDEAVOR TO ANSWER THE CALLNovember 2, 2009<br /><br /><br />"Fearlessness may be a gift, but perhaps more precious is the courage acquired through endeavor, courage that comes from cultivating the habit of refusing to let fear dictate one's actions, courage that could be described as "grace under pressure" - grace renewed repeatedly in the face of harsh, unremitting pressure."<br /><br />By Aung San Suu Kyi, Nobel Peace Prize, Burma<br /><br /><p>What an incredible month it has been. A loved one asked me basically, "what in the world are you doing?" You are focusing too much on your "job" and not doing what you said you wanted to do, your business -your work - your passion. In denial, I emphatically defended that I was doing everything that I wanted to be doing. Usually my two options are being in hell, sitting at a desk in front of a computer or speaking to a client which for me is heaven right here on earth. The moment when they see themselves for who they are and GET that it is their own habits that are standing in the way of their every desire...heaven right here on earth. But now I am not in hell, my job isn't sitting at a desk. I'm loving my job -I'm watching lives change, it's exciting. I defended my case for 45 minutes and said I want to do both. </p><br /><p>I mentioned this conversation to my accountability partner. "Guess what my loved one said to me...?" She was quiet and challenged me with the same observation. I defended it again but with a little less gusto. Some days had passed and the conversation wasn't leaving my consciouness. She didn't let up and the final blow..."five years from now when you envison your future, what do you see? What do you want to be doing?" Tears came to my eyes, because I saw SM Management. I was immediately filled with a sense of fear. I rattled off the reasons why I couldn't only do the business - my work - my passion. I rattled off my fears. It was purely terrifying to think that I could literally spend my days in this conversation. It is my greatest desire and dream. I believe that people are living in misery and suffering silently and in some cases (very loudly) only because they believe that they are supposed to. It is what I used to believe. The habit still presents itself and causes me (us) to believe that we are getting what we deserve. We are quietly ashamed and/or afraid of facing who we are at our core. If we could just understand that the power of the fear is in what we are afraid of, not in the thing itself. Once we face it, it is released. Grace. </p><br /><p>The tears kept flowing. The fear remained but also a tremendous joy surfaced imagining the world engaged in a conversation about their passions, their true core selves, which then requires that they take action that will allow them to live inspired, fulfilled and free. And then I was trying to figure out what to do and my accountability partner said "nothing." Being with what is true for you is where you need to start and the rest flows from there. I see it over and over again, clients wanting to get into action, and skipping where they are, which leads to more of the same habits and suffering. But by being where we are, grace...joy...comes in and the rest flows from there. Amazed that as many things as I've faced, as many times as I've endeavored, here I was having to endeavor again. Grace. Two days later, my first draft of my collection of blogs is completed, former clients have agreed to share their incredible experience on my upcoming teleseminars, a new client has been signed, a 3-week intensive teleseminar that I'll be attending perfectly in alignment with aiding me in my next steps, two books resurfaced that remind me of who I am and...by being called to be with my core self, the rest flowed instantly from there. </p><br /><p>I understand why it is easier to stick with our habits. That is something that we can do over and over and over again. But when we commit to a journey that is about our growth and living from our core, there is nothing static about it. We have to keep being reminded who we are and we have to keep being willing to go towards what we don't know, we have to keep jumping off the cliff and we have to surround ourselves with those committed to us living from our core. We have to sit and cry and feel the terror of the unknown. We have to keep journeying. We have to keep being authentic, even when we think we "don't wanna." We have to be willing to admit when we're wrong, be willing to apologize, be willing to say "I don't know." Be willing to say "I'm scared." Be willing to take responsibility. Endeavor to have the courage and be open to love and grace. Be willing to take responsibility to be who we were meant to be when placed here on this earth. <br /></p><p>We are all under pressure, the world is calling us to be who we truly are. Don't give into the fears preached by your friends, family, on the news and mostly by the voices in your head. Habits are deadly, the world needs us to be bigger than our minds, the world is pressuring us to live from our SOUL. Endeavor to sit down, shed a tear and enjoy your life inspired , fulfilled and free! </p><br /><p></p><br /><p><strong>Plan of Action:</strong> Please imagine what it would be like to bring in the New Year no longer resisting WHO YOU ARE. Pick one thing that you have been avoiding (bill, conversation, person, place or thing). Sit down and look at it for what it is. Don't try to figure out what to do (habit). Be where you are with it. Why are you afraid? What do you want? Has it been there for five years...five years from now do you still want it there? Be where you are with it. The rest will flow from there. </p><br /><p><br />Join the SM Management Community's Free Teleseminar on <strong>November 30th from 9pm to 10pm</strong> to hear Tim Mendes, actor and business man share his experience of before and after working with SM Management. He is now "...loving reality!" Conference Call Line: 218-486-1616 Passcode: 931969#<br /><br />If you'd like to be apart of the <em><strong>Core Conversations in Action</strong></em> discussion group on Facebook please send me an email at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> and I will send you an invitation. </p><br /><p></p><br /><p><br /></p>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-13235650973296699742009-10-01T15:37:00.016-04:002009-10-05T15:54:51.104-04:00YOUR FREEDOM OR YOUR SHAMEMonday, October 5, 2009<br /><br />Our unconscious plans manifest. Are your habits, systems and patterns leading you toward your freedom or toward your shame?<br /><br /><br />This has been an incredible couple of months for me and my clients. We have watched our dreams come true. Because together, we have made a committment to what we want, our actions has lead us towards our freedom; purchasing a second apartment, enjoying a planned vacation for the first time without the "need" to follow it up with a punishment, landing a part, moving out West, coming into BEING who you are and no longer feeling the need to be afraid, hide, or to punish ourselves for it.<em> Consistently</em> choosing to follow our core in spite of our fear of the unknown.<br /><br /><br />When we started this journey we had no idea where it would lead but it started for us all with our finances. Somehow we can let ourselves get away emotionally, where we can't financially. Having the conversation from the root . Facing the debts, the unopened mail, the true numbers of income to expenses, balancing checkbooks, and<em> knowing </em>what money is coming in and what money is going out. By facing and knowing our finances, the grip of shame we have around ourselves is confronted and therefore released. The fear and the "stories" we tell ourselves fade away because we've opened the mail, paid the bill, answered the phone and made arrangements, we've faced ourselves at our core. By knowing, we have the freedom to make a plan and feel as if we have some sense of control. Holding yourself accountable financially and realizing that you do have control, makes it possible to understand that you have that power in all areas of your life. Every week you are accounting for what came in and what was spent. Every week you are holding on to your receipts and placing them in the proper category and every day, week, month you are reconciling to the penny. Reconciling with yourself the "stories" of avoidance and shame.<br /><br /><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>PLAN OF ACTION:<br /></strong><br />Start preparing now to ensure that you bring in 2010 living your life fully and freely. Leave the baggage behind. Open the mail, answer the phone, make a plan. FACE YOUR FINANCES/FACE YOURSELF. Join those of us who have made a commitment not just in words but in actions to live fully. Don't <em>wait </em>for the new year, bring in the new year having already left your baggage behind so your year can start...<em>FREE</em>.<br /><br /><br /><p>Sign up for a free consultation <a href="http://www.healingfinances.com/">http://www.healingfinances.com/</a></p><p>Join us for the next Core Conversations In Action Teleseminar on Monday, October 26, 2009 from 9pm-10pm in the comfort of your own home.</p><p>218-486-1616</p><p>Passcode: 931969#</p><p></p><p><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></p>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-51405865376244311182009-09-05T23:35:00.024-04:002009-09-07T03:09:13.982-04:00INSIDE CONNECTIONSSeptember 7, 2009<br /><br /><p>There are so many things to which we do not have the answers. The unknown. Have you ever noticed that when you're connected with others, in conversation, in tragedy, in triumph, there is a "different... deeper" experience for yourself? The more we isolate, hide, and remain inauthentic; the more separated we feel. Connections are so important. The entire mission of SM Management is to aid people through the fear, to face the shame and rewire their habitual patterns long enough to connect to themselves. Love, understanding and compassion for self is the only way for us to have the capacity to love, understand and have compassion for another.<br /><br /></p><br /><p><strong>The Deeply Personal</strong><br />by Mark Nepo<br /></p><br /><p>Everything personal if faced belongs to everyone,<br /></p><br /><br /><p>the way water riding up the chest of a horse returns to the river once the horse has crossed.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>The deeply personal aspect of search, </p><br /><p>which seems at times unbearable, leads us to the deeply common well<br /></p><br /><p>which once immersed in<br /></p><br /><p>tells us there is nothing else to search for.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>Like snails who curl in shells<br /></p><br /><br /><p>to be tossed by the sea, the soul </p><br /><p>finds a life to inhabit.<br /></p><br /><br /><p>So close your eyes and chance<br /></p><br /><br /><p>to see your self from the inside.<br /></p><br /><p>Have you ever chanced seeing yourself from the inside? Was it terrifying? How did you survive? What did you discover?<br /></p><br /><p><strong>Upcoming Opportunities to Connect</strong>:<br /></p><br /><br /><br /><p>Share your comments at <a href="http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/">http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/</a><br /><br />Join <em>Core Conversations In Action</em> on Facebook. It's a closed group for the opportunity to create a safe space where we can be willing to share our truths. Email me at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> if you'd like to join in the conversation and I'll send you an invitation.<br /></p><br /><p>I'm thrilled to announce the new monthly FREE Core Conversations In Action Connection Party. Direct from your own home! Every holiday season (3 year anniversary - blog formerly called Emotional Money <a href="http://www.emotionalmoney.blogspot.com/">http://www.emotionalmoney.blogspot.com/</a>) I've listed very specific practices to help prepare you for the holiday "spend fest." This season let's actually do the preparation together! Face your unopened mail, clear your files, share your fears and shed your shames. Together let's create the action plan that will aid us all in entering 2010 living from our core - aligned & in action, inspired, fulfilled and consistently FREE!<br />CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTION CONNECTION PARTIES:<br /></p><br /><p>Monday September 28<span style="color:#ffff00;">, 2009 </span>9pm-10pm<br /></p><br /><p>Monday, October 26<span style="color:#ffff00;">, 2009 </span>9pm-10pm </p><br /><p>Monday, November 30<span style="color:#ffff00;">, 2009 </span>9pm-10pm<br /></p><br /><p>Monday, December 28<span style="color:#ffff00;">, 2009 </span>9pm-10pm<br /></p><br /><p>Please RSVP at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> and the call-in line information will be provided.</p><br /><p>Be sure to mark your calendars.<br /></p><br /><p>If you'd like to be added to the <em>Core Conversation In Action</em> blog email list, please email me at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> and receive the monthly emails directly in your "mailbox."<br /></p><br /><br /><br /><p>Enjoy the holiday!</p><p>Thank you Amanda & Tim for getting me all set up on Facebook!</p><p>Thank you Charlotte for getting my website and business cards updated so quickly.<br />Thank you Renee & Joanne for holding me accountable and for your wonderful coaching! <br />And thank you S and N for the wonderful dialogue, inquiry and conversations this month. </p><p> </p>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-56404662115134750352009-08-03T14:00:00.000-04:002009-08-03T14:30:10.010-04:00A SPIDER'S WEBAugust 3, 2009<br /><br />There is no conversation. Maybe there is, seperate, on your own, or with your friends. I hope so. But here, there is no conversation.<br /><br />Standing on top of a mountain, it's such a beautiful mountain, shades of green everywhere and the smells, opportunity and promise is so present and real. But standing on top of a mountain alone, there is no conversation. <br /><br />I know what to do. Tell everyone the truth. Life is really about pain and suffering and being so very hard. We are given the opportunity to dream so that it can be taken away from us. Go ahead and reach so that it can be taken away. Now if that was the conversation... <br /><br />The subetly and distinctions of what is required to live your life inspired, fulfilled and free are soooooo minor and yet sooooo huge. It's hard to convey unless there is an authentic conversation. I know what to do. Tell everyone to keep faking what you feel to protect others. Keep pursuing your dreams even though you actually don't believe that you can have them. Keep going after what you believe you can't have. Keep protecting others and keep yourself miserable. Keep doing for others in order to distract yourself from you. <br />Now if that was the conversation I was seeking...<br /><br />The truth. It is not welcomed. There are truths that are open to interpretation and then there are truths that just are. If we all could believe as we did when we first arrived on this planet that who we are is enough. What a different world it would be? What a difference in our actions, in our words and in our beliefs? What a difference in our conversations? If we could believe as we did when we first arrived on this planet that who we are is enough, what a different world it would be? <br /><br />I tore down a spider web yesterday and felt sorry for the spider because I knew that it would have to build its home over again. Webs are so beautiful and strong and yet so very delicate. I apologized to the spider. It immediately knowing who and what its purpose here is already, crawled away and immediately began spinning it's web. My apology didn't matter, the fact that it had to build again didn't matter. The truth, that we were placed here to live in abundance and in ease is not welcomed. This conversation, this web I'm so dedicated to building, is not welcomed. There is no conversation. But standing on the mountain seeing and smelling the beauty, knowing what is true will have to sustain me. It'd be easier if I was a spider. <br /><br />Although there is no coversation here right now, I hope that you are having an authentic conversation with yourself and/or with a friend. Remember if you didn't experience any sort of release(ease, exhilaration, peace) after having the conversation, the authentic conversation hasn't yet been had. <br /><br />A core conversation resulting in authentic actions over and over and over again. Such a strong and yet such a delicate web.CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-59434214161573045652009-07-01T23:58:00.005-04:002009-07-02T00:10:41.732-04:00CLEAR, CONCISE & SIMPLECan I tell you how much pleasure I get from doing inventory? Checking in items received and organizing them. Making it nice and neat.<br />Oh, that all of life could be so clear, concise, and simple.<br /><br />Although I didn't hear back from anyone this month in regards to last months blog, I am just assuming that some of you may be drowning in the complexities of life. There is so very much going on. As I learned about the death of Micheal Jackson and I thought back to my Jeri Curl, black leather pants, white Micheal Jackson jacket with 100 zippers, decorated with Micheal Jackson buttons, OF COURSE, and yes I had the glove too... I hope that in death, that he has found peace. He was such a testament to the fact that all the money, fame and talent in the world makes no difference at all if you are not at peace on the inside. May he rest in peace.<br />May we learn to LIVE in peace.<br /><br /><br />May we use this INDEPENDENCE day to enjoy the simple pleasures in our lives.<br /><br /><br />PLAN OF ACTION: Seek out what pleases you and focus your thought, talk and action in that direction. Set 4 weekly goals around those pleasures and each week for the next month meet them! You'll be amazed at how quickly your life can alter in one month.<br /><br />Remember, the next moment is not guaranteed.CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-13359163637137361672009-06-08T14:23:00.016-04:002009-06-08T15:59:25.438-04:00Runaway CartA luggage cart with 3 bins full of products and materials, a backpack on my back stuffed to the gills and a weight scale on my other shoulder. Going down hill the luggage cart seems a little off… I stop and look at it – it looks just as it did when it felt...balanced. So I just keep going down the hill. It seems like its leaning or pulling or could tilt over at any moment. It doesn’t feel quite right, so again, I stop and look at it. Again, it looks fine. Now it’s time to cross the street. There is a little dip in the sidewalk so I tentatively pull it but I keep stopping to check it. There would be nothing worse then having everything topple over in the middle of the street. I make it safely across the street. So I figure I’m home free and ignore the fact that it still doesn’t feel quite right. I check again but only with my sight. I take one more step and topple topple topple, it all falls down.<br /><br />As I was picking up the pieces, I said to myself, "I knew it just didn’t feel right." How many times a day do you say that? It is the ignorings that occur gradually over time that cause the seemingly sudden topple’s. If I had stopped and actually taken the action to adjust the boxes on the cart, versus just looking at them, I would have saved myself not only from the actual topple, but from the feeling of anx when I was crossing the street. But instead, I chose to look and take no action. It felt off balance and that is what I should have paid attention to. In life, we often ignore and ignore and ignore. We give ourselves credit for “looking” but taking action on what we see is what will save us from the anx and topples of life.<br /><br />Stop the cart, look at it, and then adjust the boxes and the cart until they feel just right.<br />When they shift, and they will, because there are hills and valleys along the way, stop, look and adjust again until it feels just right. "Feeling right" is the meter to choose this month.<br /><br />I would love to know what those of you that chose to take the action to sign up for this blog, would like to have accomplished in the next 6 months? I would like us to help each other get it. If you would like to do a little more than look at the cart, I invite you to start adjusting the boxes by signing up for this ccnaction blog page as a "follower" so every time our loved ones tell us we should be living "afraid" we can know that we are not alone and have the courage to take aligned actions anyway. Go to <a href="http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/">http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/</a> and click on "Follow." This month explore, what is keeping you from facing the fear and placing your hands on the cart until it feels "just right.<br /><br />Whether you’ve been laid off, are filing bankruptcy, getting a divorce, need money to feed your kids, or are living quite well, feel content, and are overall quite happy with your life, the same laws of the universe apply: consistent action towards what feels “just right” will take care of any and every thing. In 3 months, since taking my ultimate core action by moving, I have 7 Weight Watchers meetings, work 4 days a week, have made deals with each credit card company, am putting money in savings, have my dream relationship with a loving, loving man, and I just learned in the Fall that Broom Community College will be offering my 4 week "Facing Your Financial Fears" seminars for the Fall semester which will be taught at Big Tent Cultural Center. Their catalogs are sent to thousands. 3 months! I want to see what can happen for us all if we keep consistently putting our hands on the boxes and no longer dare to cross the street of life ill at ease. I hope you'll join me by signing in at <a href="http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/">http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/</a>. We are not alone.<br /><br /><strong>Core Action:</strong> Stop ignoring and place your hands on the cart consistently until if feels "just right."<br /><br /><strong>Request for help:</strong> I would like to fulfill the request of those interested in dialoging through Facebook. I have set up another account under "ccnaction" on Facebook but truthfully have no idea what to do next in order to give people the opportunity to dialog together. Ideally I would love the conversations to be on the blog itself so anyone tuning in can have access to the dialog and discusssions. Instead of me trying to figure it out, I'd love to hear from you on your suggestions on the best way for me to get this going. Email me the best time to contact you at ccnaction @gmail.com and I'd love 10-15 minutes of your time to discuss options.<br /><br />With this blog, I do plan to be more "vocal" about what I do not know how to do. I am committed to taking actions around asking for help because all that has happened for me since moving Upstate, has happened so quickly because instead of spending time "figuring out" I spend my time doing what I can do best and allow others to do what they do best. It saves so much time and hassle. I hope to hear from a few of you computer gurus so I may be able to have the structure in place for us to begin a Core Conversations in Action dialog in June!<br /><br />If you're on the blog list, look for an invitation to dialog during the month of June. Otherwise, look forward to the next Core Conversations In Action blog posting to arrive on Monday, July 6th!<br /><br /><br />To subscribe to the Core Conversations In Action blog mailing list and receive updates personally, please email me at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> with "Please add to blog mailing list" in the subject.<br /><br /><br />Remember, being inspired is not enough, being inspired enough to take authentic consistent actions in alignment with your core, THAT is what alters life!<br /><br /><br />Copyright 2009CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7117720343063022927.post-36264551862302297132009-05-05T18:42:00.000-04:002009-05-05T18:53:14.266-04:00CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONMay 4, 2009<br /><br /><br /><strong><span >SM MANAGEMENT'S CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTION EXCLUSIVE SUMMER TELESEMINAR SERIES<br /></span></strong><br /><br /><strong><span ><br /></span></strong><strong><span ></span></strong><br />Someone asked me today how am I able to have so much trust in myself.<br />I responded with the truth. "By my heart being shattered in a million pieces." The ending of my marriage. It wasn't voluntary. But what was voluntary was my response to living beyond my greatest fear: that I was unworthy of being loved. Though I prayed for death literally when my marriage ended, by surviving beyond it, I realized that all my beliefs and lessons about the point of life were totally incorrect. At 25 I was starting from a place I had never known before - the realization that I knew absolutely nothing about life or my role in it.<br />I set out to get to the bottom of what is true. Finding the key to THAT DISCOVERY was more important than being right, more important than making sure my family and friends agreed with me, more important than finding that right partner and being loved, more important than anything. I believe that I have found that truth. It is not true, that we are here to suffer and sacrifice and forge alone...this is the manifestation of human conditioning based on lack and fear. We are here to learn, to grow, to love and to thrive in community and the only thing stopping us from achieving profound abundance, peace and prosperity is ourselves. We are afraid to live from our truths.<br /><br />The shattering of my heart was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I had spent my life being a professional actress. I had obtained everything I ever wanted -great career, great reviews, great roles, and earning all of my income from acting. I had attained externally everything I wanted but I always felt like something was missing. But at my core, I didn't love who I was and that truth had a profound effect on all aspects of my life. It was why I ended up in my marriage in the first place. Just because we may not be willing to admit the inauthenticities doesn't mean that they don't exist. Eventually, if we remain inauthentic, it catches up to us (current economic situation). We can't heal or fix the issue if we haven't first identified what the issue is. The "fixes" - money, marriage, career, relationship, food etc. causes other issues because the real one hasn't yet been identified so therefore it can't be healed. We can save ourselves the shattered hearts by going beyond the surface to the core. We are all connected and TOGETHER we can help each other get out of our own way by being willing to admit, identify, and face our greatest fears so we may live our truth. It's well worth it.<br /><br />My life is now unrecognizable. I'm a business owner and I spend my time helping people shed their fears and thrive. I'm living in the country where I meditate and work out every day at a lake that is two minutes away. I have 7 Weight Watchers meetings and I just launched a brand new meeting today in a building that my mother owns (<a href="http://www.bigtentculturalcenter.com/" target="_blank">http://www.bigtentculturalcenter.com/</a>) that is 4 doors from where I live and 51 people came to the very first meeting. I have found such peace, love and prosperity and it can never be taken away. The internals and externals are mirrors of each other. Previously I was out of alignment internally so it manifested in a relationship based on emotional abuse and a career that was fine but unfulfilling. Presently I'm living in alignment with my truth and my relationship, the opportunities and exponential growth of every single thing I've come in contact with is in complete alignment with my truth. We are here to grow, learn, love and be loved, and thrive continuously. But we must be willing to get out of our own way!<br /><br /><strong><br />What are the key elements to getting out of our own way:</strong><br />A need, desire or want for yourself and your life that has nothing to do with anyone else.<br />The willingness to be truthful about that need, desire and want.<br />The understanding of the value of having a true support system.<br />Willingness to take actions towards your core wants.<br />Willingness to love and be loved in return.<br />Willingness to say "I don't know."<br />A willingness to being financially honest, responsible & to hold yourself accountable.<br />To have some piece of you that believes that we are not what we fear.<br />Every time I've set my heart to something, it has manifested. Every single time. I know the same is true for you. The work of SM Management is building a community that will allow us to manifest from our core being and no longer play small with something as precious as our lives, consistently and continuously. Being inspired isn't enough, being inspired to the point of taking consistent authentic actions, THAT is when our lives alter.<br /><br />SM MANAGEMENT'S LAUNCH OF:<br /><strong>CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTION TELESEMINAR SERIES<br /></strong>(Note: There must be at least 4 people and no more than 6 for the series to occur.)<br />There will be no sessions during the week of July 4th)<br /><br />Series I<br />Starts Wednesday, June 3rd 7am - 8:30am<br />Ends Wednesday, August 26th at 8am - 9:30am<br />June 3, 10, 17, & 24<br />July 8, 15, 22, & 29<br />August 5, 12, 19, 26<br />(Next Series I will start September 9th)<br /><br />Series II<br />Starts Saturday, June 6th at 8am - 9:30am<br />Ends Saturday, August 29th at 8am - 9:30am<br />June 6, 13, 20, & 27<br />July 11, 18, & 25th<br />August 1, 8, 15, 22 & 29<br />(Next Series II will start September 12th)<br /><br /><br />Meditation will be done for 10 minutes at the beginning and end of each call.<br />Actions will be identified for each person (discovered through conversation) and followed through on during the week.<br />Talking and wanting is NOT ENOUGH. There is no way for us to understand our power and the abundance the universe has for us if we are not willing to take actions towards them. There is no other way except to face our fears head on. Collectively it will be easier to face them and that is what can build our confidence in who we are at our core.<br /><br /><strong>BENEFITS FOR YOU:<br /></strong>To build trust in who you are.<br />To spend your time on this planet engaged in what you were sent here to do.<br />To love who you are.<br />To shed your shames and be healed.<br />To experience your dreams actually manifesting and coming true.<br />To find and connect with others on the same journey.<br />To tackle your financial fears.<br />To get your finances organized & in order with a system that is yours.<br />To live your life AS YOU.<br />I am interested only in those on a mission to live their lives empowered, free, in ease and abundantly. If you are "ok" with your life as it is, then this is not the teleseminar for you. The only thing to propel us forward beyond our conditioning and fears is when you've reached the place where "ok" is no longer enough. "Ok" will mean different things to different people. Whether that means that you feel like something is missing, or you feel discouraged, angry, depressed, sad or are just plain bored, or you just have a sense that there is something more, than this is the teleseminar for you. If you'd like to wake up every morning energized and in love with yourself and your life, inside & out, spiritually and financially, then this is the teleseminar for you.<br /><br />Wednesday, May 13th from 7am-8:30am & Saturday, May 16th from 8am-9:30am. I will have an informational session (including 10 minute meditation) so you may get a taste of what we will be creating for the summer of 2009. If you are interested in doing the teleseminar you would need to commit to being on one of these calls. If you are unsure but want to get more information please send me an email at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com" target="_blank">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> with "teleseminar informational session" in the heading and your info and I will send you the teleconference call number.<br /><br /><br /><strong>COST:<br /></strong>Early Registration Fee:<br />If you register by May 18th it's $120.00 per month for a total of $360.00.<br />Registration Deadline for both series is May 25th $200 per month for a total of $600.00<br /><br /><br />If we have worked together you know that the results are far beyond and different from what you expected. You get a piece of yourself that you didn't know was missing. My rate is usually $70/hour. This is a HUGE savings to receive something that is priceless. But since this is the launch of this particular model and I am aware of my own blockages that I believe will be released from this process, it is well worth a huge reduction in the price.<br />Take the time this month to see if you are living the life you want and more importantly if you are not, what are you willing to do about it?<br /><br /><strong>To apply:</strong><br />Please email me at <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com" target="_blank">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> your<br />Name<br />Address<br />Teleseminar Session Attending - Session I - Wednesday's or Session II - Saturdays<br />Informational session attending: Wednesday, May 13th or Saturday, May 16th.<br /><br />Please answer in no more than 50-100 words per question:<br /><br /><br />1. In what area are you not satisfied in your life? or In what area do you want to propel your life to the next level?<br /><br /><br />2. How long have you not been satisfied in this area? or How long have you been wanting to propel to the next level?<br /><br />3. Why do you feel that now you would be willing to do something about it? What is different, what has changed for you?<br /><br />4. What would you want to achieve by attending this exclusive summer Core Conversations In Action Teleseminar Series?<br /><br />5. I will register by: May 18th or by May 25th<br /><br /><br />Once this is received I will give you a phone call so we may have a core conversation and from there inform you of your acceptance if applicable and the details on how to register. Receipt of the questions above, having a core conversation with me & attending one of the informational sessions are mandatory to participate in this teleseminar series.<br />Remember this is an exclusive opportunity and there are only 12 slots available. The sooner you take action on the items listed above the better your chances of being apart of this exclusive opportunity. If you're ready to let go of the emotional and get into action begin today by applying for<br /><br /><br /><strong>SM MANAGEMENT'S EXCLUSIVE SUMMER TELESEMINAR SERIES!</strong><br /><br />Thank you to my incredible clients who have had the courage to act from their truths. It is because of you that I have not only experienced but saw over and over again a pattern that when we do that, it works, no matter age, race, culture, career, sex, or financial status, that action from truth works 100% of the time. My apologies to those who love facebook, that group will be created with those involved in the teleseminar series.<br /><br />This will be the last blog that you will receive from <a href="mailto:emotionalmoney@gmail.com" target="_blank">emotionalmoney@gmail.com</a>. If you would like to receive the new monthly blog CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTION (1st Monday of every month) you must send an email to my new address <a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com" target="_blank">ccnaction@gmail.com</a> with heading<br />"Please add to mailing list." I will not add anyone automatically.<br /><br />Bittersweet endings lead to the next exciting phase of new beginnings.<br /><br />I hope you'll join me for the next stage!<br /><br /><br /><br />PLEASE PASS THIS EMAIL ALONG AND SPREAD THE WORD!<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />SM MANAGEMENT<br /><br /><a href="http://www.healingfinances.com/" target="_blank">http://www.healingfinances.com/</a> (Updated soon)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">http://www.coreconversationsinaction.blogspot.com/</a><br /><br /><a href="mailto:ccnaction@gmail.com" target="_blank">ccnaction@gmail.com</a><br /><br />718-350-6095<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Copyright 2009CORE CONVERSATIONS IN ACTIONhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04827735537324678934noreply@blogger.com0